Good advice is seldom understood or appreciated.
And, I think that there's a good reason for that. The reason is that what makes for good advice is often viewed as a "bad" thing.
Seth Godin recently wrote about the attributes of good advice.
I was drawn to the posting I guess, because "good advice" is what I envision that I do. And, because I am naturally inclined to learn and I can always benefit from good advice, so I read the posting to see what the takeaway would be.
No matter what you do, be it advisor, parent, teacher, mentor or leader, I think that this piece has in it, a few "gems" I think we can all benefit from;
- Good advice is not what you want to hear but what you need to hear
- It is not imaginary, but practical
- Not based on fear, but on possibility
- Not designed to make you feel better, designed to make you better
Those points resonated with me.
The problem however, remains this
- People are prone to want to hear what they want to hear, not what they need to
- Absent a degree of "social" or other proof, fallacy masquerades pretty well as "fact" allowing for the imaginary to crowd out the practical
- Avoiding fear prevents a relationship with the possible
- Feeling better is usually going to be preferred over "making you better"
I see it all the time.
If the original blog were the reality, there'd be more people planning their lives based on what needs to done, what's practical, what's possible and what will make them better.
There just isn't much of that going on.
There needs to be more.