At times it can feel like life is just one big adjustment period.  One thing after another requires our attention and energy. And, most times, it seems that all we're ever doing is adapting and adjusting, rethinking and reconsidering.  You know why? Because we are. 

Because all life is, is change.  Change is all there ever was and it's all that there ever will be. 

But why is change for many of us such a "pain point?"

Mainly because change opens us to a state of "not being in control" and of things not meeting our expectations. 

Taking that on faith then there's really an immutably simple way to manage the "pain point" of change. 

First, realize that not being in control isn't necessarily bad and that not being in control is probably the most normal state of things.  If we can learn to accept the fact that we're not always going to be in control, maybe not being in control would be less painful. Reconciling in our minds that control is a shared resource would help us all a lot. Sometimes we have it and sometimes you don't. 

Second, why don't we give up on expectations?  Expectations are a story that we've told ourselves. It's how we've planned "it" out in our minds.  You know it's true, you've done it, I've done it, we probably did it today. We "walk" through in our mind how our day is going to go, or how the conversation with your boss will play out or,  what our child would tell us about how they see their future playing out.  We had it figured out in advance, we knew exactly how it was "supposed" to go. Only problem is, it didn't go that way did it? It seldom ever does. Deviations from our story are just that. Our story was in the end, only one possible outcome, not the only one. 

If we could learn to view change as opportunity, we might be farther down the road on our own solution. 

So here's the thing.......

Look at change as opportunity and get comfortable with not being in control and not knowing. Learning to live with uncertainty is a necessary part of life. 

 If all there's ever going to be is change, our adaptation to it is central to building toward a stronger future.